“Seize the moments of happiness, love and be loved! That is the only reality in the world, all else is folly.” – Leo Tolstoy
It’s been a very stressful month for me and my husband, Jay. It was an unforgettable experience for us and we wallowed with it for days. During those days we could not do anything but feel stuck.
But I was saved by an email from Coach Edwin Soriano, life coach and author of “You Can Be Happy Again”. There is something in his email that seemed to stabbed my heart deep down, he said, “Instead of flooding my mind with 100 things I can’t do anything about, I’d rather focus my attention on ONE thing I CAN do to improve this world.”
In my mind, “Wow! This is something! How can I do it?” So I replied to his email with, “how can I focus on the things I CAN do, if there’s an immediate issues that I cannot even resolve?” Wow! My words are heavy! I felt it, myself. Why am I this nega? Anyway, he responded by giving me an exercise. But believe it or not, his very first instruction left me in awe, “List down the immediate issues that you CANNOT do anything about. Acknowledge them.” I did. I closed my eyes and thought of all the immediate issues and accepted them one-by-one. As I acknowledged them, it’s as if my brain told me, “NEXT!” Yes, it was my brain telling me to move on.
It was an amazing exercise. It changed my perspective from “I cannot do anything“ to “there is something I can do.” On that very night, I’ve decided to do something I’ve been longing for so long. And I’ve decided to do it for myself.
Wanna know what is it? I told the whole world (or should I say, my network of friends, hehehehe), that from today on, I would choose to love myself. Yep, I grabbed my phone and after a very long time, I posted a photo of me on instagram with a caption,
“Today, I’ve decided to love myself. To choose myself more than others. To do the things I love to do, rather than following what other people say.
Today, I’ve also decided to forget the pains of the past and move on. I’ve decided to be happy, healthy, and to be ME. “
I was thrilled with how my brain felt ecstatic being loved by myself. The next day, I woke up early and updated this blog and finished it in no time. Because then again, this is what I am passionate about. Plus, this is something I want to do for myself— “to be confident that I can do something.“
Until today, I am in awe of how acknowledging my weakness can do great things for myself. Up until this very moment, I would catch myself wondering, “why did I not realize it sooner? Maybe then, I should have written a lot or I should have done much for myself. I should have not wasted my days wallowing in despair.”
For that, I promised myself to focus on the beauty of every situation. I promised that I would seize every moment, whether my day turned out positive or a little rough. Because the hard truth is that, I wasted so many days focusing on the negativity of my life, rather than thinking of the opportunities this challenges have in-store for me. I have wasted my days. I should have spent with my husband, with my family, or with my friends, yet I ended up isolating myself behind closed doors. I have wasted my days. I should have had a beautiful me-time or writing time, yet I ended up curling and crying on my bed. I have wasted too many days of my life…
I am delighted to share this with you now, “accept the things that you have no control off and seize the moment. Because once it’s gone, it will never come back.”
Did you have the same situation as mine? What did you do? Comment down below and let’s celebrate life.